- "This is the decision I am making."
Above all, remember that you do not have to justify your decision to undergo IVF. This choice is between you, your partner, and your fertility specialist. Simply stating that you have made your choice should be enough for respectful friends and family members.
- "Adoption does not change my infertility."
You may also choose to explain that adopting a child will not change the fact that you cannot conceive one. Some people want to experience parenthood through pregnancy, and that is their choice.
- "Adopting is not a simple process either."
You may experience people questioning the financial and time investment that IVF demands. But they likely don't realize that adoption can be costly and full of complications as well. The time and money you are willing to spend is completely up to you.
- "This is the treatment that is best right now."
You may also choose to focus your answer on the moment. Tell the person asking that you and your partner are choosing IVF right now, but that does not mean you have ruled out adoption all together. Again, this is your decision.
- "Adoption isn't exclusively for infertile couples."
This point is often overlooked by those who question infertile couples. Gently remind them that fertile couples are free to adopt as well, and that every couple who wishes to have a child can make this choice.
Above all, remember that you can give as much or as little information as you want while talking about your fertility journey. Some couples may choose to have a large support system, while others may decide to keep fertility conversations between them. Any truly supportive loved one will completely respect your decisions.