1. Don't place blame: Blaming yourself or your partner could create a toxic and resentful environment. Take a deep breath and acknowledge that this reality is not in your control.
2. Know that there are solutions: Upon learning the details of your infertility, do not descend into hopelessness. There are plenty of fertility experts who can help you conceive. Between 85% and 95% of infertility cases are treated with drug therapy or surgery. Patiently speak with your doctor about your options.
3. Be open: Have an outlet for your thoughts and feelings. Bottling up these emotions and putting on a brave face will only cause them to get worse. Whether writing in a journal or talking with your best friend, let these feelings flow out of you.
4. Support your partner: If you are going through this with a partner, be empathetic. Remember that they are likely feeling many of the same emotions as you. Listen and show that you are there for them. Be sure to take time to have fun together as well, as to not let infertility treatments take over your life and relationship.
5. Join a support group: Whether online or in your community, find other people who are also struggling with their fertility. While talking to your friends and family members may be helpful, nothing compares to the empathetic support of others who know your struggle.
6. Set limits: If you decide to begin infertility or IVF treatments, set financial and medical limits. Decide if you are willing to do whatever it takes to conceive or if you are going to stop treatment at a certain point. This will save you emotional pain and indecision down the road.
If you tried all of these tips, and coping with infertility is still too much for you to handle, do not hesitate to seek professional counseling. There are trained experts available to help you through this process. Be compassionate and understanding with yourself. Infertility is a difficult process, so you owe it to yourself to be gentle.