In this two-part series, we will explore ways to take care of your relationship during your in vitro fertilization procedures.
Before Your Treatments...
You and your partner can use the time before treatment to learn more about how you can support each other. Consider taking the following steps in this process:
Avoid placing blame
Research shows that about one-third of infertility cases are attributed to the male partner, a third to the female, and another third are unknown. Even if you know the precise cause of your infertility, do not use this knowledge as a weapon. Placing blame can be dangerous, and it will only lead to feelings of guilt, shame, resentment, and anger, all of which can be poison for a relationship. However, don't be too hard on yourself if you are experiencing these negative feelings. Instead, talk to your partner, a trusted friend, or a therapist and work towards repairing your relationship.
Communicate about communication
Talk to your partner about the importance of communication during the IVF process. That's right, you need to talk about the way that you talk to each other. This way, you can be ready to support each other and talk through struggles when they come up. Eventually, this openness will flow naturally.
Ask what your partner needs
Even through you know your partner better than anyone else, ask what they specifically need to feel supported. And be sure to share your needs as well. This will take out any mystery and keep your relationship strong.
Before you even begin the in vitro fertilization procedure, speak as openly and honestly about your emotions as you can. This way, your partner can replicate the openness and you can feel comfortable sharing your fears and joys. Even in moments of uncertainty, you can at least know that you're being heard.
By preparing for IVF by supporting each other, you and your partner can put your relationship first. In the next part of this series, you will learn ways to strengthen your relationship during treatment. These two guides together can help build resilience and allow you to find comfort in your bond.