By setting boundaries and taking care of your emotional needs, these months can truly be merry and bright.
The Dos And Don'ts Of Coping With The HolidaysBy having clear expectations for yourself and your loved ones, you can get through your holiday gatherings without undue emotional pain. The following rules may help you design these boundaries for yourself.
DO prepare for the dreaded questions.
It's hard to get through a holiday party without hearing, "So, when are you two going to have kids?" While this question may make your heart sink, it's important to remember that your friend or family member is coming from a place of love. Knowing this, decide on your response ahead of time but remember that you don't need to disclose every detail. A vague, polite answer is all that's required before changing the subject.
DON'T be afraid to leave early.
If you are feeling upset, you don't have to stay for the entire party! When leaving early, simply excuse yourself and thank the host. Remember that you do not owe anyone an explanation.
DO find a supportive point of contact.
At every holiday gathering, designate a friend or family member to be your support system if you start feeling low. This person might be your partner, parent, or cousin. You might even consider sending your best friend a text from the bathroom.
DON'T let infertility ruin your holidays.
This season might be a time to take a break from thinking about fertility. By scheduling in vitro fertilization to start in the new year or simply reframing this season in your mind, you might be able to put family and friends above your fertility journey.
DO decide how much information you want to share.
By predetermining what you are going to tell your loved ones, you can free yourself from momentary pressures. About 44% of women with infertility have sought medical assistance, and about 65% have given birth. If you are among this pool, it is not your responsibility to tell everyone about it. You might have certain family members who you feel comfortable sharing information about your infertility struggles. And others might not need to know.
When struggling with infertility, it can feel like your whole world is fertility clinics, in vitro fertilization options, and IVF financing. By preparing for the holidays, you can make these months and emotionally healing time for you and your partner. Surrounded by loved ones might just be the best place to be.