Infertility in women can have taxing psycho-emotional side effects. What you must know is that while you may feel alone, sad, angry, or an infinite range of emotions, barraging yourself with negative thoughts and actions does more harm than good. Here are ways to battle some of the difficulties that accompany infertility.
Your Physicality Does NOT reflect Your Personal WorthAn emotional reaction to infertility is commonly reflected in self-blame. It's not your fault. Infertility is common, conception is never a guaranteed outcome. It's estimated that couples ranging from 29 to 33 with perfectly functioning reproductive systems have a 20-25% probability of conceiving during any given month. Self blame for biological systems over which you have little control is not positive for emotional health and can manifest itself in further physical symptoms.
Use The Buddy SystemWhen women are infertile, the aforementioned tendency to self-blame often leads to isolation. The notion that nobody understands what you're going through and you're doing it alone is dangerous. Communication should begin with your partner, because you're in this together. When communication and support starts in your relationship, other outlets help. There are millions of women going through the same thing. You may handle it differently, but a rich support network exists. Don't battle alone, battle with friends, family, and people with similar experiences.
Don't forget your doctor. Visiting a fertility center might feel awkward, but that isn't the mindset to adopt. A fertility expert is the prime source of knowledge in your support system. They'll be able to offer sound scientific advice, alternative options for reproduction, and consistent medical support.
RestToo often, women living with infertility are in such constant search of treatments that they forget their bodies need to rest. The physical and emotional stress is trying and ignoring it in the name of fertility is counterproductive. You need to rest, you need to relax, you need to care for your health, both physical and mental before (and during) your quest for treatment.
It's a tough journey, but not an impossible one. In the beginning, infertility feels like an insurmountable obstacle, over which you must go alone. You're absolutely not alone. Through emotional and medical support, treatment can work and have beautiful outcomes. Taking care of your mind first will bring you clarity and finding support will bring a foundation upon which you can stand and view the options for your future.