- Feel Your Feelings: Let yourself grieve. You do not need to be chipper and optimistic immediately after the miscarriage. Give yourself all the time you need to mourn your loss and handle it in the way you see fit. Find a healthy outlet such as a journal or art to let your emotions flow out of you.
- Turn to Your Partner: If you are going through this process with a partner, remember that this is their loss as well. Be sure that you and your partner are supporting each other. Take the time to listen to their grief and be open about yours. Sticking together will help this experience strengthen rather than weaken your relationship.
- Join a Support Group: About 6.7 million women ages 15 to 44 have an impaired ability to conceive or sustain a pregnancy to full term. So, you are not alone in this. See if there is a group in your area for people who have suffered miscarriages or are struggling with infertility. If not, online groups are also a great resource.
- Deliver the News Secondhand: This experience has already been painful enough, so you shouldn't have to tell people over and over again. Ask a close friend or family member to tell other friends and family members that you lost the baby. Urge them to do this in person or over the phone.
- Talk To Your Fertility Expert: Even if you feel hopeless following your miscarriage, especially if it wasn't your first, visit your fertility clinic to talk about your options. A compassionate expert will guide you through the healing process and list out possible next steps.
No matter what your IVF timeline or other treatments looked like, a miscarriage is almost always difficult. Remember that you never have to handle this emotional strain on your own. A host of mental health professionals is available to assist you with the internal side of recovery while your fertility expert handles the physical side. With time, gentleness, and care, you will eventually recover fully and move forward in your fertility journey.