"While I always think it’s a smart idea to feel what you’re feeling -- good or bad -- it’s important not to let the bad consume you. Feel it. Cry it out. And go onward. Even if you have to force the smile to start the ebb of the upswing, do it. And keep doing it for as long as you can."
If you find yourself falling into negative emotions and harmful coping mechanisms, follow these tips to find some optimism during your treatment.
- Communicate expectations with your doctor
Communicating all realistic outcomes with your doctor will give you an idea of what to expect. Especially if you are a logical person, having this knowledge may put your mind at ease.
- Find activities that put things in perspective
Infertility may feel all-consuming when you are in the thick of treatment, but it is important to remember that you have a life outside of your ability to conceive. Learn a new skill, find a hobby, spend time in nature, or meet up with friends to get your mind off of your treatments. These healthy emotional outlets will do wonders for your mental health.
- Surround yourself with a positive support system
This is a time to be selective about who you surround yourself with. By keeping positive people in your life, you will absorb their positive energy. During this difficult time, you deserve to be supported and loved.
- Spend time with your partner
If you are undergoing IVF treatment with a partner, it may feel like your relationship is revolving around your ability to become parents. Take time to reconnect with your loved one through date nights, quiet time together, or travel, for example. You are each other's best friend in this.
Remember that 7.4 million women, or 11.9% of the population, have ever received services for infertility. Your fertility center may have recommendations for support groups. These services, in combination with other self care, can be highly effective. By taking the initiative to stay positive during your IVF journey, you will have a higher quality life overall.